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YOUR OWNER'S MANUAL

Go from frustrated single to empowered DATER

 
Meet the Owner’s Manual, the year long transformational 
coaching journey & live events that 
fix the modern dating sh*tshow.
 
 

 

DOORS ARE CLOSED!  NEXT COACHING JOURNEY STARTS IN AUGUST 2020

YOUR OWNER’S MANUAL

Meet the Owner’s Manual, 
the year long transformational coaching journey & live events that fix 
the modern dating sh*tshow.

Would all passengers in cabins “Single AF” please commence boarding.

I REPEAT:
 
Would all passengers who have ever 
fallen asleep spooning their ice-cream, 
cat, iphone, or romantic self-help book 
please report for boarding.
 
 

Would all passengers in cabins “Single AF” please commence boarding.

I REPEAT:
 
Would all passengers who have ever 
fallen asleep spooning their ice-cream, 
cat, Iphone, or romantic self-help book 
please report for boarding.
 
 
MODERN DATING IS A 
GIANT CLUSTERFORK!
 
 
  • Tinder, texting & trust issues.
  • Ghosting. Breadcrumbing. Zombieing.
  • Friends with benefits & frustrations.
  • Hookups, heartaches & hurt feelings.
  • Speed dates. Blind dates. No dates.
  • Cheating, lying & emotionally unavailability.
  • Break-ups, set-ups & setbacks.
  • Commitment issues. Mommy/Daddy issues.
  • Netflix and chill…?
 
 

Um. WTF is even happening?!

MODERN DATING IS A 
GIANT CLUSTERFORK!
  • Tinder, texting & trust issues.
  • Ghosting. Breadcrumbing. Zombieing.
  • Friends with benefits & frustrations.
  • Hookups, heartaches & hurt feelings.
  • Speed dates. Blind dates. No dates.
  • Cheating, lying & emotionally unavailability.
  • Break-ups, set-ups & setbacks.
  • Commitment issues. Mommy/Daddy issues.
  • Netflix and chill..?

Um. WTF is even happening?!

 
In the past 40 years, relationships &
dating culture have totally changed. 
 

Back in the day, all women were supposed to want was a ring on their 

finger and a fancy man to hold open doors & foot the bill.

Now? We ALL want more.

We want better.

We want true partnerships filled with love, support, laughter and trust. 

But we don’t know how the hell to get it. 

When did the greatest adventure of our lives turn into it a series of unfortunate events?

 

 
In the past 40 years, relationships &
dating culture have totally changed. 
 

Back in the day, all women were supposed to want was a ring on their finger and a fancy man to hold open doors & foot the bill.

Now? We want more.

We want better.

We want true partnerships filled with love, support, laughter and trust. 

But we don’t know how the hell to get it. 

When did the greatest adventure of our lives turn into it a series of unfortunate events?

 

But here’s the deal, Sugarpants-

The relationship you want is totally possible.

And it all starts with the Owner’s Manual.

But here’s the deal, Sugarpants-

The relationship you want is totally possible.

And it all starts with the Owner’s Manual.

I’m Kira Sabin.

Your resident captain, coach and positive psychology practitioner. For over ten years now, I’ve been helping women just like you stop sabotaging their own shit and start creating healthy and loving relationships. 

No, that’s not a typo. I didn’t mean to say, “find the one”

‘Cause I know you think that everything will be rainbows and unicorns once you find love and meet the perfect partner. 

But the truth is that love isn’t hiding from you. It isn’t playing some epic game of hide and seek. Love is something you have to create by sorting through your baggage. Baggage that you probably didn’t create but has to be sorted through just the same. 

 

What, you didn’t think I was going to let you continue lugging around those Samsonites, did you?

Oh, hell no.

 


I’m Kira Sabin.

Your resident captain, coach and positive psychology practitioner. For over ten years now, I’ve been helping women just like you stop sabotaging their own shit and start creating healthy and loving relationships. 

No, that’s not a typo. I didn’t mean to say, “find the one”

‘Cause I know you think that everything will be rainbows and unicorns once you find love and meet the perfect partner. 

But the truth is that love isn’t hiding from you. It isn’t playing some epic game of hide and seek. Love is something you have to create by sorting through your baggage.  Baggage that you probably didn’t create but has to be sorted through just the same. 

What, you didn’t think I was going to let you continue lugging around those Samsonites, did you?

Oh, hell no.

 

This is about helping you – the beautiful, complex woman who has had imperfect role models, lots of bad dates, questionable relationships that just didn’t work out – become an empowered (carry-on only) adventurer in charge of her destiny.

The reality is we aren’t taught this stuff. 

There isn’t a class in school called: “How you love: Learning your attachment styles and cultivating your self-worth and self-compassion.” 

We aren’t shown how to create boundaries, solve problems and speak up for ourselves, all while maintaining our vulnerability. And we sure as hell aren’t shown how to create love. 

(Hands up if you didn’t even know that was a thing until now?)

This stuff doesn’t come naturally. These are all legit skills, like riding a bike, playing the piano, and baking the perfect chocolate chip cookie.

But unlike regular skills, there isn’t a reliable and effective class you can attend, or an instruction manual you can read, to really wrap your head around what it takes to create love in your life. 

This is about helping you – the beautiful, complex woman who has had imperfect role models, lots of bad dates, questionable relationships that just didn’t work out – become an empowered (carry-on only) adventurer in charge of her destiny.

The reality is we aren’t taught this stuff. 

There isn’t a class in school called: “How you love: Learning your attachment styles and cultivating your self-worth and self-compassion.” 

We aren’t shown how to create boundaries, solve problems and speak up for ourselves, all while maintaining our vulnerability. And we sure as hell aren’t shown how to create love. 

(Hands up if you didn’t even know that was a thing until now?)

This stuff doesn’t come naturally. These are all legit skills, like riding a bike, playing the piano, and baking the perfect chocolate chip cookie.

But unlike regular skills, there isn’t a reliable and effective class you can attend, or an instruction manual you can read, to really wrap your head around what it takes to create love in your life. 

OR AT LEAST THERE WASN’T … UNTIL NOW.

Welcome to the Owner’s Manual.

 

Your Owner’s Manual – or OM – is a online/offline coaching journey for singles ready to transform their love life from the inside out. 

 

It’s life coaching, positive psychology, neuroscience, deep self-work, community support, relationships skills practice, accountability, live events and self-love mentoring, all wrapped up in a step-by-step (and totally life-changing) experience. 

 

It’s a process, filled with other singles just like you who want to learn the skills and tools required to create healthy and loving relationships and create them from day one with another imperfect person. 

Welcome to the Owner’s Manual.

Your Owner’s Manual – or OM – is a six-month online/offline adventure for women ready to transform their love life from the inside out. 

It’s life coaching, positive psychology, neuroscience, deep self-work, community support, relationships skills practice, accountability, live events and self-love mentoring, all wrapped up in a step-by-step (and totally life-changing) experience. 

 

It’s a process, filled with other singles just like you who want to learn the skills and tools required to create healthy and loving relationships and create them from day one with another imperfect person. 

True (and truly inspiring) transformations

I feel way more at peace with myself.

It's the strangest thing...I feel way more at peace with myself. I feel way more confident that not only will a guy show up without me having to worry about it, but I feel freer to be exactly who I am so that if a relationship comes it will just add to the joyful things I'm already filling my life with. It's a really solid and stress-free way to approach dating and relationships! 🙂

-Femi, Austin, TX

League of Adventurous Singles
2018-12-06T18:51:35+00:00

-Femi, Austin, TX

It's the strangest thing...I feel way more at peace with myself. I feel way more confident that not only will a guy show up without me having to worry about it, but I feel freer to be exactly who I am so that if a relationship comes it will just add to the joyful things I'm already filling my life with. It's a really solid and stress-free way to approach dating and relationships! 🙂

She has helped me see what went wrong in my marriage and how to move forward and learn from the situation.

Kira has been my rock through my divorce and getting back into dating. She has helped me see what went wrong in my marriage and how to move forward and learn from the situation. We have worked on finding back to who I really am and want to be. She has also been a total rockstar in helping me navigate the tricky beginning phase of a new relationship. She is such an incredible support, I don't know how I would have done this without her. She is very, very kind, encouraging and understanding, yet will let me know when I need to be reigned in. Kira is just a cool human being and I'm thrilled to be working with her.

-Ida, Chicago

League of Adventurous Singles
2018-12-06T19:06:27+00:00

-Ida, Chicago

Kira has been my rock through my divorce and getting back into dating. She has helped me see what went wrong in my marriage and how to move forward and learn from the situation. We have worked on finding back to who I really am and want to be. She has also been a total rockstar in helping me navigate the tricky beginning phase of a new relationship. She is such an incredible support, I don't know how I would have done this without her. She is very, very kind, encouraging and understanding, yet will let me know when I need to be reigned in. Kira is just a cool human being and I'm thrilled to be working with her.

Left the Program Forever Changed

In a sea of relationship programs that exist for single women, "The Owner's Manual" is a breath of fresh air. Kira's program not only gives you the tools you need to have a kick-ass relationship, it also helps you do the deep soulful work necessary in order to be a better partner.  I left the program forever changed.


The best part, however, is Kira as a teacher. Throughout the course, her passion about her clients truly shines through. Besides - a woman who knows how to use "fuck" and make it elegant is someone that will always have a place in my heart.  

-Robin, NYC

League of Adventurous Singles
2018-12-20T00:17:36+00:00

-Robin, NYC

In a sea of relationship programs that exist for single women, "The Owner's Manual" is a breath of fresh air. Kira's program not only gives you the tools you need to have a kick-ass relationship, it also helps you do the deep soulful work necessary in order to be a better partner.  I left the program forever changed. The best part, however, is Kira as a teacher. Throughout the course, her passion about her clients truly shines through. Besides - a woman who knows how to use "fuck" and make it elegant is someone that will always have a place in my heart.  

I have so many tools at my fingertips now and feel much more confident in myself.

I've spent my entire adult life wishing for and wanting the kind of connection and intimacy I saw in so many other relationships. I thought if I found the "right"person it would just happen.  Now after the OM, I have so much more self awareness. I'm learning how to show myself compassion. How to stop being so hard on myself. I've learned that connection doesn't just happen. It's something you create with another person by being emotionally and physically available. I have so many tools at my fingertips now and feel much more confident in myself.

-Stephanie, San Francisco, CA

League of Adventurous Singles
2018-12-20T00:18:18+00:00

-Stephanie, San Francisco, CA

I've spent my entire adult life wishing for and wanting the kind of connection and intimacy I saw in so many other relationships. I thought if I found the "right"person it would just happen.  Now after the OM, I have so much more self awareness. I'm learning how to show myself compassion. How to stop being so hard on myself. I've learned that connection doesn't just happen. It's something you create with another person by being emotionally and physically available. I have so many tools at my fingertips now and feel much more confident in myself.

After OM I feel so empowered and know exactly what I want in a relationship

  Before OM I thought that I was the only one struggling with knowing what I wanted in a relationship and how to ask for what I need because I didn’t want to be perceived as “High Maintenance”! After OM I feel so empowered and know exactly what I want in a relationship and am more confident in having the conversations that need to be had when the time comes!  You will dig deep, you will laugh, you will ugly cry and most of all you will feel loved and supported on your journey! 

-Sam, Little Rock

League of Adventurous Singles
2018-12-20T00:18:56+00:00

-Sam, Little Rock

  Before OM I thought that I was the only one struggling with knowing what I wanted in a relationship and how to ask for what I need because I didn’t want to be perceived as “High Maintenance”! After OM I feel so empowered and know exactly what I want in a relationship and am more confident in having the conversations that need to be had when the time comes!  You will dig deep, you will laugh, you will ugly cry and most of all you will feel loved and supported on your journey! 

Kira has pushed me out of my comfort zone and out of my shell.

Some of my favorite things Kira has helped me to discover…Teach people how to treat me, both in dating and at home with my kids. Know what I want and need AND don’t be afraid to ask for it. Start things the way you want them to end.


Kira has pushed me out of my comfort zone and out of my shell. She is willing to hold my hand if I really need it, but there are no unicorns here. :)”

-Michelle, Toronto ON

League of Adventurous Singles
2018-12-20T00:19:38+00:00

-Michelle, Toronto ON

Some of my favorite things Kira has helped me to discover…Teach people how to treat me, both in dating and at home with my kids. Know what I want and need AND don’t be afraid to ask for it. Start things the way you want them to end. Kira has pushed me out of my comfort zone and out of my shell. She is willing to hold my hand if I really need it, but there are no unicorns here. :)”

Working with Kira has been one of the greatest decisions I have ever made.

When I heard about Kira I was struggling with being single and dating, looking for love in all the wrong places, chasing after fairytale romance, dreaming of a man to come along who would complete me. I hired Kira and she took me on an amazing journey of self discovery and taught me what real love is all about. Not only has she transformed my thoughts on love and showed me the reality of what relationships really are, she has been a friend and been by my side to support me when I try at this dating thing and it just doesn't work out. 

-Katie, UT

League of Adventurous Singles
2018-12-20T00:20:15+00:00

-Katie, UT

When I heard about Kira I was struggling with being single and dating, looking for love in all the wrong places, chasing after fairytale romance, dreaming of a man to come along who would complete me. I hired Kira and she took me on an amazing journey of self discovery and taught me what real love is all about. Not only has she transformed my thoughts on love and showed me the reality of what relationships really are, she has been a friend and been by my side to support me when I try at this dating thing and it just doesn't work out. 
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BY THE END OF YOUR OM JOURNEY, YOU’LL:
Know what works –and doesn’t work –for YOU in relationships.
Have cultivated deep and unwavering
self-worth & self-compassion.
FEEL MORE CONFIDENT AND IN CONTROL WHEN DATING.
KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE AND HAVE MEANINGFUL CONVERSATIONS WITH ANOTHER PERSON.
OPEN UP AND BE VULNERABLE (IN A GOOD WAY). ‘Cause love lies in where we are vulnerable.
BECOME EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE AND (MOSTLY) BAGGAGE-FREE.
UNDERSTAND HOW YOU LOVE, AND YOUR PERSONAL ATTACHMENT STYLES.
KNOW WHEN TO STAY AND WHEN TO WALK AWAY…WITHOUT SECOND GUESSING YOURSELF.
UNDERSTAND SMART DATING & RELATIONSHIP TIMELINES TO SET THINGS UP FOR SUCCESS, EVERY TIME.
Know how to set personal boundaries with actual scripts & real life scenarios.
Know the difference between emotionally available partners & those who aren’t.
be the smartest dating genius on the block. Unicorns will be in awe of you and unicorns are a tough crowd.

THIS JOURNEY ISN’T JUST ABOUT DATING. 

THIS IS ABOUT TRANSFORMING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS BY FINALLY BELIEVING YOU ARE TRULY WORTHY OF GREAT LOVE. 

 

BECAUSE YOU ARE.

This isn’t just about sex or dating. This is about transforming your relationships by finally believing you’re truly worthy of great love.

 

BECAUSE YOU ARE.

It’s about becoming more confident, even when you’re deep sea diving outside your comfort zone.

It’s about dealing with rejection, without having to self-soothe and resort to excessive wine and cheese consumption.

It’s about teaching people how to treat you, without feeling like your needy or demanding.

And it’s about your happiness; understanding, creating, cultivating and owning it.

BECause you deserve this.

Happiness. Love.
And a relationship that feels like you’ve won the fricken lottery.

It’s about becoming more confident, even when you’re deep sea diving outside your comfort zone.

It’s about dealing with rejection, without having to self-soothe and resort to excessive wine and cheese consumption.

It’s about teaching people how to treat you, without feeling like your needy or demanding.

And it’s about your happiness; understanding, creating, cultivating and owning it.

BECause you deserve this.

 

Happiness. Love.
And a relationship that feels like 

you’ve won the fricken lottery.

I’ve helped thousands of SINGLES create
actual, real love that lasts. Like, really.

Take a look at a few success stories.

Love is possible. At any age, size, weight, shape or stage of your life.
I’m here to teach you how.
Love is possible. At any age, size, weight, shape or stage of your life.
I’m here to teach you how.
NOT SURE IF YOU’RE THE RIGHT CANDIDATE?
LET’S CHECK.
OM IS THE PERFECT COURSE FOR YOU IF:

You have a great job and awesome friends but STILL feel completely unlovable (and like you’re failing at relationships).

You’re single AF and whispering to yourself, “Holy crap, how and when did this happen?”

You’re divorced and there’s no way in hell you’re making the same mistakes again.

You’re sick of self-sabotaging and want to create a life that’s led by love – NOT fear.

You want to call B.S. on beliefs that are holding you back & stop feeling like you’re broken — but you have no idea how to start.

You don’t need help getting a date. You need help creating a real relationship that will last longer than the tub of Nutella on your counter.

You’ve tried all the things. Dating websites. Matchmakers. Blind dates. Rain dances. Now you want something that’s gonna stick.

You want to quit talking yourself out of relationships before they’ve even started.

You’re pretty sure that your relationship picker is broken, and you feel like you’re going to stay single, frustrated and alone forever.

You’re tired of going to every event, wedding, office party, family holiday meal, cat show…alone.

You are sick of looking around at all of your friends in relationships, getting married and wondering “when is it my turn?”

You want to believe that love is possible. At any age, size, weight, shape or stage of your life.  BTW, it is.

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TAKE A LOOK INSIDE THE OM EXPERIENCE: COURSE MODULES 

Happy relationships start with happy singles, and I’ve got the science to prove it. 

This pre-work is all about igniting your happiness by introducing you to new daily practices to start moving your happiness set point while your cultivate gratitude and mindfulness. And I make sure that the things you learn actually stick. 

We will also be setting our intentions for the process, making sure our head is in the right place to dig into this work.

If you’re feeling lost and confused in your love life, you’re not alone. The landscape of love has shifted and relationships in 2020 are dramatically different than they’ve ever been before. 

So why are we dating the same way we did in 1968? In this module, you’re going to learn what love really looks like, and how to build healthy, working relationships. 

Have you ever met someone, thought there was potential, but then something weird popped up that made you think that it’s not a good match? Here’s the thing: We all learn to show (and receive) love in different ways.

Someone could be a really great match for you, but they just don’t know how to love you. So we’re going to dig into the ways that you first learned love. Was it healthy? Is it helping you attract healthy people, or is it leading you down a road of unhappiness and disconnection?

We all have a story, usually one that’s based on past experiences and things we’ve made up about ourselves along the way. In this module, we look into that story and investigate what beliefs and mindsets come along with it. 

After we dive into your story, what parts of your story can you ditch? What parts can you rewrite to create a story that moves you towards love, and away from fear.

Self-worth is one of the most important aspects of dating. If we don’t have it, everyone we meet becomes a potential “fixer”— and expecting someone else to make you feel worthy will kill a relationship faster than Raid kills ants.

This week, you’ll learn what self-worth really is, and why it really is so important. 

We look at how your self-worth (or lack thereof) is showing up in your dating and relationships with a self-worth assessment that highlights where you should be focusing your work. 

We also get into techniques that build your self-compassion, which in turn will boost your self-worth and equip you with the resilience to deal with rejection — while dating like a boss. This will genuinely change your life.

Your mind talks a lot of smack. It’s especially good at feeding you wackadoo thoughts and made-up stories that don’t help you AT ALL.

In this module, I’ll show you how to teach people how to treat you by exploring how you carry yourself, what you tolerate and how you react and respond to people and situations. Usually all of that is based on how we feel about ourselves deep on the inside, but trust me, your lack of confidence is being broadcast on the outside loud and clear.

Which is why I’ll show you how to understand the different types of thoughts and how to challenge what isn’t working for you anymore. You’ll learn about the beliefs and thinking traps that are keeping you unhappy and discover how to change the worry cycle that is affecting your dating and relationships.

After we understand what’s going on in your head, you’ll learn reframing techniques to get you through even the toughest days (and dates). I guide you through fully processing rejection and moving on from it. You also get the tried ‘n’ testing tools you need to control your thoughts so they don’t control you.

We’re all unique, sparkly unicorns because we each have different personalities, beliefs, and experiences. Because of that, we need different things in order to feel happy and safe. 

Knowing what you need to feel good and thrive in a relationship is an absolute must when you’re dating, yet so few of us really take the time to figure this stuff out.

Instead, we wait for the other person to make us feel happy and safe. And that, Sugarpants, is a recipe for relationship disaster.

In this module, we really untangle why values are so important, and you’ll learn how to recognize matching values in potential dates.

We’ll also uncover your strengths, so you know exactly what you have to offer a relationship, and what you need from another in order for the relationship to work. We focus in on learning to communicate without handing someone a questionnaire. I pinky promise.

Do you never want to tell someone NO because you’re afraid they’ll be upset or not like you? Do you bend over backwards to please others? Do you overshare (vomit out your life story) with people you just met because they’re “just going to have to like you for who you are”?  (Yup, that’s a boundary issue too.)

We look at people pleasing (trust me, it is killing you), co-dependence, and those big effing walls you like to put up and pretend are healthy. You’re going to discover INTERDEPENDENCE, and it’s going to completely shift how you show up in the world. (Hint: That’s where everyone feels fucking amazing!)

Want to know what the most attractive qualities are? Physical and emotional availability.

And to be clear, being on every app & site isn’t the right kind of availability.

When people meet you, they’ll instantly be looking to see how they fit into your life and what they can bring to your relationship. But is there actually room for them? Or are you so busy being Miss Awesome Independent that people meet you and have ZERO idea how to fit into your life? 

In this module, you’ll learn how to make sure you are coming off as physically and emotionally available, figuring out how people fit into your life, and why vulnerability is the key to great love.  

If you’re dating — but never connecting deeper — this is a MUST for you.

An all new module for 2020!

It is so hard to date and put ourselves out there if we are struggling with the way we feel about our body.  Let alone the thought of getting naked in front of a new person.  Yikes!

But many beliefs we have about our body are left over from caregivers, media, culture, exes, all of it!  This module is going to dig into you getting rid of toxic beliefs about your body and embracing it in a whole new way to walk into every situation with confidence!

We are also digging into new and healthy mindsets about sex in dating and relationships.  Working on how to talk about sex, STDs and asking for what you need in bed to feel connected to your partner…and because orgasms.  Scripts included!

Now that you know All Of The Things, how do you actually use them for dating? I got you, boo. In this module, you’ll discover first date mindsets and learn the only three questions you need to ask yourself after every date. 

Next, I’ll show you how to spot emotional unavailability (sooner rather than later) and what to do about it.

Finally, you’ll learn when & how to be vulnerable in new situations, and when to set boundaries. I’m even going to give you scripts for the DTR (Define the Relationship) talk and other awkward dating situations. Phew!

So what happens when you actually meet someone you like? You’re both smitten and excited and ready to do this, right? 

The quick ‘n’ dirty truth: This is where the real work comes in. 

You’ll master how to get through the power struggle phase that every couple goes through — and end up happy on the other side. You’ll also learn how to peacefully and happily resolve conflicts (‘cause that sh*t is inevitable).

DOWNLOAD THE FULL CALENDAR HERE!
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Here’s What you GET:

12 ONLINE MODULES & PRE-WORK

Your own PRIVATE learning portal

On your own private learning portal packed with videos, audios, quizzes, playlists and worksheets to guide you in understanding all the things about love and relationships that you never learned (but totally f*cking should have).  You will have access to your portal indefinitely even after the OM is done so you can refer back to it while you are dating.

As soon as you sign-up, you’ll receive an instructional e-mail with how to access your personal (and private) learning portal. You’ll love it. It’s been created for multiple learning styles and is super easy to work with. 

Online facebook community

ACTION STEPS TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

Your squad and online family, in one happy Facebook community. You’ll have a safe space to connect with me, and other incredible singles like you who are also going through the process.  

You can ask questions, share successes, get vulnerable, learn from others’ stories, and create solid new friendships with incredible singles who are learning and evolving just like you. I will also be doing occasional FB Lives, pajama watch parties and other fun games and challenges.

Who cares what you learn if you never get off your couch and apply it? #nobody. Which is why every single module of the Owner’s Manual will get you out trying new things, meeting new people, and stepping outside your comfort zone.

‘Cause that’s where all the good stuff happens, babycakes!

TWICE A MONTH GROUP VIDEO CALLS WITH KIRA

SMARTY FARTY GUEST EXPERTS

Where you’ll bring all your WTF questions, and I’ll bring the laser-focused coaching and answers on all things love, dating and relationships. 

The calls are spread throughout the month so you just choose when feels best to you and your schedule. There will be evening and day time calls available to serve most time zones around the world!!

Not only will you have access to my brain, you also have other coaches and experts coming in for guest calls to help you get the most out of the work.  Whether it is intention setting, boundary scripts or body image work…we got you.

A KICK-ASS WELCOME GIFT BASKET

OM RETREATS in MEXico

Who doesn’t love getting prezzies in the mail? 

You will receive a welcome package full of gifts to support you in your changes and a few fun ones because getting gifts is awesome.  

 

All of this knowledge is great, but even better when we can get together and practice your new skills in a safe and comfortable space.

Throughout the year there will be multiple retreats that you can join in Cancun and the Yucatan Peninsula of Mexico.  This is where  you (and all your new OM friends) dig in with me to practice everything you have learned. They will be one part learning + one part relaxing on the beach, by the pool, eating yummy food and feeling good.  

AAAAND DRUM ROLL, PLEASE … LIVE EVENTS IN MEXICO!

Because if we are going to hang out and learn cool sh#t shouldn’t it be on a beautiful beach? 

All of this knowledge is great, but even better when we can get together and practice your new skills in a safe and comfortable space.

Throughout the year there will be multiple retreats that you can join in Cancun and the Yucatan Peninsula of Mexico.  This is where  you (and all your new OM friends) dig in with me to practice everything you have learned. They will be one part learning + one part relaxing on the beach, by the pool, eating yummy food and feeling good.  

I believe in all that I am that spending a week focused on you, relaxing, bonding, laughing, sharing, growing is one of the best things you could do for yourself. 

 

CHECK OUT WHERE WE ARE HANGING OUT IN MEXICO...

FEEL like you might want more support?

 

I got you.

You can get one-on-one coaching calls with the best Accountability Coach IN THE LAND! 

 Seriously, she is mind-blowing. 

 

Get 45 minute calls with Loha whenever you feel stuck, overwhelmed or just need a check-in.  Package of 3 is $450 and can be purchased at any time in the OM process.

 

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THE Owner’s Manual 

 
YOUR 12 MONTH JOURNEY INCLUDES:
 
  • 12 Online Modules On Your Own Learning Portal full of workbooks, activities, videos, audios, meditations, challenges and so much more.  To slowly work on long-term change and growth. They will truly blow your mind!
  • TWELVE MONTHS (a whole year!) to finish your OM and then access to me and the group as you start dating.  When you really need it!
  • Twice a month Q & A and Coaching Calls with Kira where we dig in, laugh, cry, get vulnerable, get silly, support, listen, learn and grow!  You will feel seen and heard in a whole new way.
  • The Best Darn Community of Ladies EVER!  If you have been wanting a group of healthy, smart, incredible women in your life…#challengeaccepted!
  • Regular fun online events like Pajama Party Movie Nights, OM Jeopardy, Self Compassion Skills calls,  Scavenger Hunts, Guest expert Interviews..learning doesn’t have to be boring.
  • Access to live events and retreats in Mexico with Kira that are ONLY for OM participants.  
  • Welcome Gift Basket with books, prezzies and everything you need to start digging in.
  • Changing the way you move through this world so you can feel more confident, relaxed, excited, and hopeful about love.  Isn’t that the point?
 

LOVE IS POSSIBLE. AT ANY AGE, SIZE, WEIGHT, SHAPE OR STAGE OF YOUR LIFE.

I’m here to teach you how.

KNOW YOU WANT TO DO THIS?  Grab a spot for the next 
ROUND STARTING IN AUGUST 2020.
 
 
Are you in? Choose your payment option

$299

a month

Owner’s Manual One Year Payment Plan

$2999

$600 savings!

Owner’s Manual Paid in Full for the Year
 

“Wait, I Have a Question!”

You’re in luck: Answers are my specialty.
Here are some of the most common questions I get asked by prospective OM clients.

Don’t take my word for it! (anyone get that Reading Rainbow reference?)

In case you haven’t looked at my obnoxious amount of testimonials…here are a few more!

After my time with Kira I decided to travel solo over 12K miles working on myself along the way. One of my last stops was my hometown where I reunited with a childhood friend. We are now co-creating a beautiful relationship where everything is falling into place effortlessly, beautifully. And because of the OM I recognized a great man and I was ready. The rest of my life relationships, all of them, will be blessed because Kira helped me find my way. Fix thyself and the rest will follow. – Cindy Want to read more testimonials? Click here.
The lessons that I learned and applied lead me to find a love that I never dreamt possible, and we’re getting married in June. Just to name a few things that I learned/applied that lead me to where I am: 1. Realize what I want, and what I don’t want 2. Be brave and try new things (in my case it was Tinder! Where I met Seth ) 3. Don’t ignore red flags! (I was a serial red flag ignorer) 4. Probably most importantly COMMUNICATE – what you want, what you like, what you don’t; it’s OK to communicate these things and can lead to a stronger, healthier relationship. I look back at how and who I dated and can see how much I grew just from your podcasts and class. So thank you – I’m truly happier than I ever thought was possible. I realized who I was and what I wanted through your class, and I found someone who loves me for me, treats me well, supports me, you name it… THANK YOU! Paula (recently engaged!) Want to read more testimonials? Click here.

Right now I am in the best relationship of my life and I do not say that lightly.    We have been in a relationship for 15 months.  It’s a relationship filled with mutual respect and love.  We communicate very well together and are deeply in love with each other.   We both have  past hurts that creep up sometimes and I’m most proud that we can communicate so well so we know what we need from each other.    Last week he said something unintentionally that hurt me and I was able to articulate what it was that he said and how it made me feel and he was able to immediately realize why I would feel that way.    We talked it out and it was a very grown up conversation.     I can’t believe it took me 7 years to find him but it was worth the wait.     I just now texted him and asked him if he had anything to add and he said ‘Life is best when shared with someone special.   Keep it light and full of laughter’.     That sums up our relationship so well.   

Forever grateful for Kira and the hard work she does with helping other women be who they were meant to be.   Krystal

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Before the OM I felt like I only chose unavailable men. They were in another relationship, emotionally unavailable, long-distance, demanding jobs…But the OM showed me that I was being  unavailable because I was not showing up fully as myself and asking for what was important to me. I also learned that I needed to to look for men who I deserved to have in my life, vs me trying to fit the desires and lifestyles or “who they were looking for”.

I was able to find a partner who had the same interest and ability to communicate, be introspective, supportive, show up fully for each other daily, and share intimacy. We are deeply grateful for what we have each day yet are committed to growth as individuals and as a couple.

Julie, Madison

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Once I met Bryan, I knew this time it would be different. I  immediately went into OM mode. I set a boundary (him not needing to see me every day) & he followed it. I set another boundary (him buying me dinner all the time….a previous abusive relationship trigger) and he followed it. (Rinse and repeat for the last 5 months!) And yes, he sets them too.

We talk all the time about us. Asking how each others day is, how we can help each other through things, and what (if any) is working our last nerve so those tiny things don’t come up in a disagreement for no reason.  We talk when things aren’t comfortable and that includes those uncomfortable triggers…but we work through them TOGETHER. I now feel like a happy, content, fulfilled, joyful & a better, empowered woman!

Every single woman on this earth should do this. Married, divorced, single, widowed, etc. It’s about personal development.

Michelle, Madison

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I’ve been seeing my new man-friend for 4 months now, and we had a two hour conversation last night about how neither of us would have been ready for what we are building prior to this time in our lives. We each have different strategies for how we’re working on ourselves so as to be able to be present and active in our relationship – and the OM class was a huge part of my growth.

Valuing myself, greater self-awareness, knowing what a relationship can and can’t do for me, understanding and feeling comfortable communicating boundaries, asking for (and knowing) what I need, sitting in vulnerability, realizing when I’m telling stories about who I am/he is (versus really looking at what actually is), being realistic and honest with myself and him about my own issues — these are all things I am more able to do because of the work that was spurred on during the OM class. Thank you Kira!  

Leah – Madison, WI  (now 2 years and counting!)

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We met three months ago in a serendipitous and spontaneous gathering of mutual friends at a concert in Chicago, and have been enjoying and building a slow-going but steady friendship and relationship  since. In the early weeks, he chuckled and called me a “fucking unicorn,” and has since nicknamed me “Uni” for short. He calls me every morning to hear my live voice vs texting (score!), and all of our friends say the connection they see (and we feel) is undeniable. Looking forward to future things. So grateful for the OM !

Lisa

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Tonight we are going to  review my Owner’s Manual  and begin talks about living together! I’m so excited (and not anxious) to hear his thoughts and share mine. I have never had a relationship like this before where I am comfy being myself.

I am where I am because of what I learned from you…I’m open, informed, in touch with who I am and what I want and need! Thank you from my whole heart! You rocked my fucking world Kira!!

Sherri

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Kira gave me the real talk I needed; she had me put on my big girl panties and take a good look at myself and what I wanted.  The growth I experienced from her coaching helped me transform my attitude about dating, and I’ve since snagged the love of my life (who loves my big girl panties btw) and I’m exactly where I want to be!!

– Jeanne,  Madison, WI (now happily married )

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Yup.  It totally is.  And can you really put a price on amazing relationships and waking up loved for who you are every. single. day?

Just a reminder of here is what is included!

You have mind-blowing content and support for 12 months! THAT’S A YEAR!!

You get 12+ years of my blood, sweat, tears, research, conversations, story-collecting, coaching, live events, retreats, coaching certificate, positive psychology certificate and obsession with love and relationships. And you get to borrow all of that brain anytime you want on the Q & A calls or in the FB community that I visit multiple times a day and at a live event!

You get an amazing community of women who are doing the work just like you!  Having better and smarter conversations, changing their lives and getting shit done!

You get access to a live event in Mexico that is nothing less than life-changing and you will walk away confident, supported, happy and loved.

You even get awesome gifts to support you in your changes and a few fun ones because getting gifts is awesome.

But most importantly, you will walk away knowing what you personally need, how to ask for it, how to set boundaries, how to communicate, how to be vulnerable, how to date for success and how to create incredible love with another person.

That is worth everything.

Of course you are nervous!  That is 100% normal.  Getting real with ourselves and vulnerable with others can feel super scary!  

But let me tell you this.  Getting real and getting vulnerable are crucial for all relationships, so why not practice in a completely safe and supportive space.  So when you are ready to get to know someone, you already have practiced the skills to do it!

Just like riding a unicorn, this shit gets real…..real fast. 🙂

I will be your biggest cheerleader, because I want this for you.  But I will also call you out on perspectives and mindsets that are holding you back.

But don’t be confused…I am not here to be your friend, I am here to change your life.

This will be one of the hardest things you have ever done, but if you REALLY do it, you will walk away a better person.  That part is up to you.

I am a HUGE fan of therapy.  HUGE!  Therapy changed my life and started me on this 20 years and counting self acceptance journey.  If you know you have left over trauma from childhood or a past relationship…start there! 

But when you have done therapy and are ready to focus on dating and relationship mindsets and skills…that is where the OM comes in. 

I have even had many therapists come through this program because we all need support and guides to evolve and grow.

Here are what a few former clients have said…

I’m 40 years old and I’ve never been married. I spent my 30s falling for a rogues gallery of unavailable men. When I decided that I was ready to change that, I turned to Kira Sabin and the Owners Manual class. I’ve seen therapists in the past. I’ve uncovered the parental issues. I’ve identified the patterns. I wanted to take action. “How did you learn to love?” Kira asked and my world changed. If I learned to love one way (a way that wasn’t working for me), that meant I could learn to love in a new way, a way that does work for me. With Kira’s guidance and the incredible support from my classmates, I am breaking down my behaviors, learning how to establish boundaries and trust, and clearly identifying and articulating what I need for a healthy relationship. For the first time in my life, I am learning how to deeply care for myself in life and love and the ripple effects are already transformational. Kira is an empowering, inspirational, down and dirty, honest troop leader. If you’re ready to change your love, join Kira Sabin’s Owner’s Manual class. It’s the best investment I’ve ever made in myself.  – Susanna, NYC

“As a new clinical psychologist I’ve had 7 year of training in many different treatment modalities, techniques, and have gone through my own therapy treatment. I’ve gone to tons of trainings, workshops, conferences, but, honestly, this has been one of the most transformative and eye opening experiences That I’ve ever had and I want to thank you so much for all you do. I’ve learned so much more about myself these past 10 weeks, than I’ve learned in the past 10 years. Much of it was painful to examine at times, other times it was so validating, either way it was hugely necessary. I’m still realizing that I need to heal old wounds.. and continue working on breaking my maladaptive patterns..but at least now, I know what needs healing. I’ve also been setting boundaries like a Mofo and having tough as shit conversations-which I’ve hide away from soo much cause I was that person who never spoke up out of fear!! Thanks to this course I finally learning what I need from others and learning how to communicate that! For example, over xmas break.. I set some significant boundaries with my parents..(this is huge) and Finally after 5 years had a heart to heart conversation with my best friend of 30 years!! Natasha

I have worked with Kira for a short time, and I am so transformed.  I think of all the YEARS I spent reading self-help articles, bitching to friends about my love life, and stumbling through the dating world on my own and I cringe, because in less than six months, Kira gave me all the life-changing tools I needed to build a healthy relationship.  And even more importantly, I know myself better and love myself more.  Why didn’t I call her sooner?!  In the Owner’s Manual, Kira assigned fun but challenging homework assignments that pushed me to shift the way I see myself and share with others.  Then she used my journals and reflections as the starting point for our conversations.  Our sessions went deeper than therapy because they had focus.  At the end of each session, I felt a surge of confidence to get out there in the world and be vulnerable, and to connect with people from a place of trust and love.  It’s helped me with dating, with my relationship with my family, and with asking for help pursuing other goals.  I needed help with money, so I got a financial planner.  I needed help being healthier, so I sought out new exercise instructors.  And I really needed help asking for what I need and deserve, so I got a life coach.  And I’m truly grateful that I did.  This past chapter of my single life was full of self-doubt and constant chaos. Now I have started a new one of trust, romance, and excitement for the future. And it’s a page-turner!  Sara

The video calls will be offered throughout the month and you choose the two times you want to come that work best for your schedule. 

Here is the calendar to see if you can find times to work!

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It has provided me with a great group of like minded women; who encourages and supports me as well as cheers me on throughout my journey. It’s quite amazing really!  – Indhira, NYC

I never expected in a million years that I would also be connected to the most incredible women I have ever met. Doing the OM and having this  community has been life changing, The love and support that I have received has changed me completely as a person. I am so thankful I have these women in my life and to have created lifelong connections and friendships with positive, like minded, supportive, loving, women. – Cassie

The women who were part of the OM  are truly some of the most beautiful, strong, intelligent, compassionate, and supportive women I have ever had the pleasure of meeting.  We were able to form a strong bond almost immediately and our friendships have only just begun.  What a cool experience it has been to connect with these women and to watch them grow, while experiencing my own personal growth at the same time! – Kathryn

One whole YEAR! 

I have learned that it takes time to not only do the work but also process and practice. You are unlearning years if not decades of unhealthy behavior. 

You start your pre-work the day you sign-up and you have one year from the day you sign-up to finish the work.  That’s about a module a month.  That is TOTALLY doable.

After your year is up you can extend your time if you want continued support  and you will also have access to your portal indefinitely to refer back to.

LEARNING

The moment you sign-up you get a welcome email with first steps.  Once those steps are done you will receive your username and password to get access to your own private learning platform. This platform has all of the info you need to do the OM process.

You will need access to a computer with internet that has speakers.

Here are a few things to plan on. Expect to dedicate 1-2 hours for homework, calls and community time. 

Trust the process.  You will hear me say that a lot.  There is a reason everything is in the order it is in.

Plus this isn’t about finishing quickly, it is about learning, processing, sharing, and changing.

Yes.  

I have tried many other platforms and at this point, FB is the best option for groups.

However, you are welcome to create a private account that is unsearchable just for this program.  The community is a HUGE part of the process.

EVENT QUESTIONS

All retreats moving forward will be at safe and stunning resorts in Cancun, Mexico.  Because if we are going to hang out and dig in to sh#t, let’s do that on the beach.  Relaxing and drinking mojitos (nojitos if you don’t drink).

It is not. 

However, I keep these affordable so you can come.  Most retreats will be 6-7 days and probably under $1500 if you share a room. 

That will include everything (food, drinks, hotel, classes) except airfare.

 

You will fly into Cancun (CUN).  Danny, the hubs and Client Concierge will meet you at the airport with a sign and once you arrive EVERYTHING is taken care of for you.  

Flights to Cancun are super reasonable so make sure you check out Southwest and Frontier.

Absolutely.  As we get closer to the event you will have the opportunity to find a roommate in the OM group.

There will be at least two, if not more, retreats during your time in the OM.  Come to one or come to all!  If you can’t make the first one, another will be around the corner.

The event is an important part of this process and my goal is to get 100% participation for your sake, not mine.  

These events are totally and completely life-changing.  However, the events are a totally optional part of the process.

 

LOGISTICS

Right now, sweet thing.  

You can sign-up at anytime and you will get your welcome email immediately to get started.

The Internet pixies will fly into action, delivering your welcome email and confirmation.  

 

Both. Your course modules are delivered online (via our slick af online learning system), but there are also video conference calls, virtual meetups/events and retreats in Cancun, MX.

Well you and I both know that I can’t make you do anything. 🙂  

However, this beautiful experience is not meant to be done alone. We need others to share, connect and learn with and from.  

In this community, you will meet incredible women who will be there for you and will push you further and faster than you could ever go on your own.

Heck yes!  Bring two!

You have the first 2 weeks after you sign-up to ask for a refund through email.  At that time, you will get whatever you paid minus $300 – $400 for admin, set-up fees and your welcome gift.

Anytime after that your payment is refundable only in the form of a program credit that is good for up to a year. If anything you have paid will remain in our system to be applied to be used for the program up to one year.  

Each case will be looked at on a case-by-case basis.  If we agree to pause the program temporarily, you can come back and finish it within one year of your pause date.  

No problem! Danny, my hubs and our client concierge will answer all of your email questions! Email Danny
Love is possible. At any age, size, weight, shape or stage of your life.
I’m here to teach you how.