Let’s get some shit real straight, right now.
The heart does not want anything. The heart does not have a brain nor does it make the complicated decisions about love. It pumps blood, to your organs. That is pretty much it.
So I tend to throw up a little in my mouth when someone quotes to me “BUT the heart wants what the heart wants!”
This is such a pile of fucking horse shit. Seriously.
Usually it is because someone is justifying something that is against all reason. It is someone’s bad behavior or poor decision making and we all feel a whole bunch better about the crappy ass decisions SINCE “the heart wants what the heart wants.”
I mean, it isn’t our fault, right? The heart just wants it!!!
Here is what I know.
Sometimes in life we are just attracted to certain types of people. We are drawn to them in ways we can’t explain. (There is science, psychology and a whole bunch of other shit all balled into one behind this. I am not going there right now.)
I also know that although we are drawn to them, we always have a choice to create a relationship with them.
We always get to choose if they are in our lives or what role they play. We are not victims in some crazy scheme, stuck in bad dating or relationships because that heart wants it!
So from today on, let’s not be all confused about this shit, shall we? Trying to blame something as amazing as love when it is really fear in disguise. Stupid fear.
You are SO much more than that. This shit is so beneath you, Sugarpants.
Can everyone just do me (and yourselves) a huge favor?
Let’s stop messin’ around and really fucking do this.
Stop pretending that your fears are about love. Stop creating drama that isn’t there, relationships that don’t exist and stories in your head about what you think the relationships is, instead of what it really is.
Today, take a step back and look at what is not working in your life when it comes to love.
Are you able to give and receive love openly? Not just attraction.
Know and share with someone what you need (do you even know?) to thrive in a relationship?
Are you so passionate about your life every day you just can’t help but want to share it? If not, what the fuck are you doing? We only get one life. This is it, people. Stop pretending about what the heart wants and get to know what you really NEED to be happy in a beautiful relationship.
Tell me how I can help? I just so happen to be great at this shit.