Happy relationships start with happy singles, and I’ve got the science to prove it. 

This pre-work is all about igniting your happiness by introducing you to new daily practices to start moving your happiness set point while your cultivate gratitude and mindfulness. And I make sure that the things you learn actually stick. 

We will also be setting our intentions for the process, making sure our head is in the right place to dig into this work.

If you’re feeling lost and confused in your love life, you’re not alone. The landscape of love has shifted and relationships in 2020 are dramatically different than they’ve ever been before. 

So why are we dating the same way we did in 1968? In this module, you’re going to learn what love really looks like, and how to build healthy, working relationships. 

Have you ever met someone, thought there was potential, but then something weird popped up that made you think that it’s not a good match? Here’s the thing: We all learn to show (and receive) love in different ways.

Someone could be a really great match for you, but they just don’t know how to love you. So we’re going to dig into the ways that you first learned love. Was it healthy? Is it helping you attract healthy people, or is it leading you down a road of unhappiness and disconnection?

We all have a story, usually one that’s based on past experiences and things we’ve made up about ourselves along the way. In this module, we look into that story and investigate what beliefs and mindsets come along with it. 

After we dive into your story, what parts of your story can you ditch? What parts can you rewrite to create a story that moves you towards love, and away from fear.

Self-worth is one of the most important aspects of dating. If we don’t have it, everyone we meet becomes a potential “fixer”— and expecting someone else to make you feel worthy will kill a relationship faster than Raid kills ants.

This week, you’ll learn what self-worth really is, and why it really is so important. 

We look at how your self-worth (or lack thereof) is showing up in your dating and relationships with a self-worth assessment that highlights where you should be focusing your work. 

We also get into techniques that build your self-compassion, which in turn will boost your self-worth and equip you with the resilience to deal with rejection — while dating like a boss. This will genuinely change your life.

Your mind talks a lot of smack. It’s especially good at feeding you wackadoo thoughts and made-up stories that don’t help you AT ALL.

In this module, I’ll show you how to teach people how to treat you by exploring how you carry yourself, what you tolerate and how you react and respond to people and situations. Usually all of that is based on how we feel about ourselves deep on the inside, but trust me, your lack of confidence is being broadcast on the outside loud and clear.

Which is why I’ll show you how to understand the different types of thoughts and how to challenge what isn’t working for you anymore. You’ll learn about the beliefs and thinking traps that are keeping you unhappy and discover how to change the worry cycle that is affecting your dating and relationships.

After we understand what’s going on in your head, you’ll learn reframing techniques to get you through even the toughest days (and dates). I guide you through fully processing rejection and moving on from it. You also get the tried ‘n’ testing tools you need to control your thoughts — so they don’t control you.

We’re all unique, sparkly unicorns because we each have different personalities, beliefs, and experiences. Because of that, we need different things in order to feel happy and safe. 

Knowing what you need to feel good and thrive in a relationship is an absolute must when you’re dating, yet so few of us really take the time to figure this stuff out.

Instead, we wait for the other person to make us feel happy and safe. And that, Sugarpants, is a recipe for relationship disaster.

In this module, we really untangle why values are so important, and you’ll learn how to recognize matching values in potential dates.

We’ll also uncover your strengths, so you know exactly what you have to offer a relationship, and what you need from another in order for the relationship to work. We focus in on learning to communicate without handing someone a questionnaire. I pinky promise.

Do you never want to tell someone NO because you’re afraid they’ll be upset or not like you? Do you bend over backwards to please others? Do you overshare (vomit out your life story) with people you just met because they’re “just going to have to like you for who you are”?  (Yup, that’s a boundary issue too.)

We look at people pleasing (trust me, it is killing you), co-dependence, and those big effing walls you like to put up and pretend are healthy. You’re going to discover INTERDEPENDENCE, and it’s going to completely shift how you show up in the world. (Hint: That’s where everyone feels fucking amazing!)

Want to know what the most attractive qualities are? Physical and emotional availability.

And to be clear, being on every app & site isn’t the right kind of availability.

When people meet you, they’ll instantly be looking to see how they fit into your life and what they can bring to your relationship. But is there actually room for them? Or are you so busy being Miss Awesome Independent that people meet you and have ZERO idea how to fit into your life? 

In this module, you’ll learn how to make sure you are coming off as physically and emotionally available, figuring out how people fit into your life, and why vulnerability is the key to great love.  

If you’re dating — but never connecting deeper — this is a MUST for you.

An all new module for 2020!

It is so hard to date and put ourselves out there if we are struggling with the way we feel about our body.  Let alone the thought of getting naked in front of a new person.  Yikes!

But many beliefs we have about our body are left over from caregivers, media, culture, exes, all of it!  This module is going to dig into you getting rid of toxic beliefs about your body and embracing it in a whole new way to walk into every situation with confidence!

We are also digging into new and healthy mindsets about sex in dating and relationships.  Working on how to talk about sex, STDs and asking for what you need in bed to feel connected to your partner…and because orgasms.  Scripts included!

Now that you know All Of The Things, how do you actually use them for dating? I got you, boo. In this module, you’ll discover first date mindsets and learn the only three questions you need to ask yourself after every date. 

Next, I’ll show you how to spot emotional unavailability (sooner rather than later) and what to do about it.

Finally, you’ll learn when & how to be vulnerable in new situations, and when to set boundaries. I’m even going to give you scripts for the DTR (Define the Relationship) talk and other awkward dating situations. Phew!

So what happens when you actually meet someone you like? You’re both smitten and excited and ready to do this, right? 

The quick ‘n’ dirty truth: This is where the real work comes in. 

You’ll master how to get through the power struggle phase that every couple goes through — and end up happy on the other side. You’ll also learn how to peacefully and happily resolve conflicts (‘cause that sh*t is inevitable).