“Wait, I Have a Question!”

You’re in luck: Answers are my specialty.
Here are some of the most common questions I get asked by prospective OM clients.

Don’t take my word for it! (anyone get that Reading Rainbow reference?)

In case you haven’t looked at my obnoxious amount of testimonials…here are a few more!

After my time with Kira I decided to travel solo over 12K miles working on myself along the way. One of my last stops was my hometown where I reunited with a childhood friend. We are now co-creating a beautiful relationship where everything is falling into place effortlessly, beautifully. And because of the OM I recognized a great man and I was ready. The rest of my life relationships, all of them, will be blessed because Kira helped me find my way. Fix thyself and the rest will follow. – Cindy Want to read more testimonials? Click here.
The lessons that I learned and applied lead me to find a love that I never dreamt possible, and we’re getting married in June. Just to name a few things that I learned/applied that lead me to where I am: 1. Realize what I want, and what I don’t want 2. Be brave and try new things (in my case it was Tinder! Where I met Seth ) 3. Don’t ignore red flags! (I was a serial red flag ignorer) 4. Probably most importantly COMMUNICATE – what you want, what you like, what you don’t; it’s OK to communicate these things and can lead to a stronger, healthier relationship. I look back at how and who I dated and can see how much I grew just from your podcasts and class. So thank you – I’m truly happier than I ever thought was possible. I realized who I was and what I wanted through your class, and I found someone who loves me for me, treats me well, supports me, you name it… THANK YOU! Paula (recently engaged!) Want to read more testimonials? Click here.

Right now I am in the best relationship of my life and I do not say that lightly.    We have been in a relationship for 15 months.  It’s a relationship filled with mutual respect and love.  We communicate very well together and are deeply in love with each other.   We both have  past hurts that creep up sometimes and I’m most proud that we can communicate so well so we know what we need from each other.    Last week he said something unintentionally that hurt me and I was able to articulate what it was that he said and how it made me feel and he was able to immediately realize why I would feel that way.    We talked it out and it was a very grown up conversation.     I can’t believe it took me 7 years to find him but it was worth the wait.     I just now texted him and asked him if he had anything to add and he said ‘Life is best when shared with someone special.   Keep it light and full of laughter’.     That sums up our relationship so well.   

Forever grateful for Kira and the hard work she does with helping other women be who they were meant to be.   Krystal

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Before the OM I felt like I only chose unavailable men. They were in another relationship, emotionally unavailable, long-distance, demanding jobs…But the OM showed me that I was being  unavailable because I was not showing up fully as myself and asking for what was important to me. I also learned that I needed to to look for men who I deserved to have in my life, vs me trying to fit the desires and lifestyles or “who they were looking for”.

I was able to find a partner who had the same interest and ability to communicate, be introspective, supportive, show up fully for each other daily, and share intimacy. We are deeply grateful for what we have each day yet are committed to growth as individuals and as a couple.

Julie, Madison

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Once I met Bryan, I knew this time it would be different. I  immediately went into OM mode. I set a boundary (him not needing to see me every day) & he followed it. I set another boundary (him buying me dinner all the time….a previous abusive relationship trigger) and he followed it. (Rinse and repeat for the last 5 months!) And yes, he sets them too.

We talk all the time about us. Asking how each others day is, how we can help each other through things, and what (if any) is working our last nerve so those tiny things don’t come up in a disagreement for no reason.  We talk when things aren’t comfortable and that includes those uncomfortable triggers…but we work through them TOGETHER. I now feel like a happy, content, fulfilled, joyful & a better, empowered woman!

Every single woman on this earth should do this. Married, divorced, single, widowed, etc. It’s about personal development.

Michelle, Madison

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I’ve been seeing my new man-friend for 4 months now, and we had a two hour conversation last night about how neither of us would have been ready for what we are building prior to this time in our lives. We each have different strategies for how we’re working on ourselves so as to be able to be present and active in our relationship – and the OM class was a huge part of my growth.

Valuing myself, greater self-awareness, knowing what a relationship can and can’t do for me, understanding and feeling comfortable communicating boundaries, asking for (and knowing) what I need, sitting in vulnerability, realizing when I’m telling stories about who I am/he is (versus really looking at what actually is), being realistic and honest with myself and him about my own issues — these are all things I am more able to do because of the work that was spurred on during the OM class. Thank you Kira!  

Leah – Madison, WI  (now 2 years and counting!)

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We met three months ago in a serendipitous and spontaneous gathering of mutual friends at a concert in Chicago, and have been enjoying and building a slow-going but steady friendship and relationship  since. In the early weeks, he chuckled and called me a “fucking unicorn,” and has since nicknamed me “Uni” for short. He calls me every morning to hear my live voice vs texting (score!), and all of our friends say the connection they see (and we feel) is undeniable. Looking forward to future things. So grateful for the OM !


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Tonight we are going to  review my Owner’s Manual  and begin talks about living together! I’m so excited (and not anxious) to hear his thoughts and share mine. I have never had a relationship like this before where I am comfy being myself.

I am where I am because of what I learned from you…I’m open, informed, in touch with who I am and what I want and need! Thank you from my whole heart! You rocked my fucking world Kira!!


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Kira gave me the real talk I needed; she had me put on my big girl panties and take a good look at myself and what I wanted.  The growth I experienced from her coaching helped me transform my attitude about dating, and I’ve since snagged the love of my life (who loves my big girl panties btw) and I’m exactly where I want to be!!

– Jeanne,  Madison, WI (now happily married )

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Yup.  It totally is.  And can you really put a price on amazing relationships and waking up loved for who you are every. single. day?

Just a reminder of here is what is included!

You have mind-blowing content and support for 6 months! SIX MONTHS!

You get 10+ years of my blood, sweat, tears, research, conversations, story-collecting, coaching, live events, retreats, coaching certificate, positive psychology certificate and obsession with love and relationships. And you get to borrow all of that brain anytime you want on the Q & A calls or in the FB community that I visit multiple times a day and for a 4-day event.

You get an amazing community of women who are doing the work just like you!  Having better and smarter conversations, changing their lives and getting shit done!

You get a 4-day event that is nothing less than life-changing and you will walk away confident, supported, happy and loved.

You even get awesome gifts to support you in your changes and a few fun ones because getting gifts is awesome.

If you sign-up for OM+ you also get  your OWN accountability coach who will be your cheerleader, personal coach, accountability partner, and all around smart and awesome friend for the whole time.

But most importantly, you will walk away knowing what you personally need, how to ask for it, how to set boundaries, how to communicate, how to be vulnerable, how to date for success and how to create incredible love with another person.

That is worth everything.

Of course you are nervous!  That is 100% normal.  Getting real with ourselves and vulnerable with others can feel super scary!  

But let me tell you this.  Getting real and getting vulnerable are crucial for all relationships, so why not practice in a completely safe and supportive space.  So when you are ready to get to know someone, you already have practiced the skills to do it!

Just like riding a unicorn, this shit gets real…..real fast. 🙂

I will be your biggest cheerleader, because I want this for you.  But I will also call you out on perspectives and mindsets that are holding you back.

But don’t be confused…I am not here to be your friend, I am here to change your life.

This will be one of the hardest things you have ever done, but if you REALLY do it, you will walk away a better person.  That part is up to you.

I’m 40 years old and I’ve never been married. I spent my 30s falling for a rogues gallery of unavailable men. When I decided that I was ready to change that, I turned to Kira Sabin and the Owners Manual class. I’ve seen therapists in the past. I’ve uncovered the parental issues. I’ve identified the patterns. I wanted to take action. “How did you learn to love?” Kira asked and my world changed. If I learned to love one way (a way that wasn’t working for me), that meant I could learn to love in a new way, a way that does work for me. With Kira’s guidance and the incredible support from my classmates, I am breaking down my behaviors, learning how to establish boundaries and trust, and clearly identifying and articulating what I need for a healthy relationship. For the first time in my life, I am learning how to deeply care for myself in life and love and the ripple effects are already transformational. Kira is an empowering, inspirational, down and dirty, honest troop leader. If you’re ready to change your love, join Kira Sabin’s Owner’s Manual class. It’s the best investment I’ve ever made in myself.  – Susanna, NYC

“As a new clinical psychologist I’ve had 7 year of training in many different treatment modalities, techniques, and have gone through my own therapy treatment. I’ve gone to tons of trainings, workshops, conferences, but, honestly, this has been one of the most transformative and eye opening experiences That I’ve ever had and I want to thank you so much for all you do. I’ve learned so much more about myself these past 10 weeks, than I’ve learned in the past 10 years. Much of it was painful to examine at times, other times it was so validating, either way it was hugely necessary. I’m still realizing that I need to heal old wounds.. and continue working on breaking my maladaptive patterns..but at least now, I know what needs healing. I’ve also been setting boundaries like a Mofo and having tough as shit conversations-which I’ve hide away from soo much cause I was that person who never spoke up out of fear!! Thanks to this course I finally learning what I need from others and learning how to communicate that! For example, over xmas break.. I set some significant boundaries with my parents..(this is huge) and Finally after 5 years had a heart to heart conversation with my best friend of 30 years!! Natasha

I have worked with Kira for a short time, and I am so transformed.  I think of all the YEARS I spent reading self-help articles, bitching to friends about my love life, and stumbling through the dating world on my own and I cringe, because in less than six months, Kira gave me all the life-changing tools I needed to build a healthy relationship.  And even more importantly, I know myself better and love myself more.  Why didn’t I call her sooner?!  In the Owner’s Manual, Kira assigned fun but challenging homework assignments that pushed me to shift the way I see myself and share with others.  Then she used my journals and reflections as the starting point for our conversations.  Our sessions went deeper than therapy because they had focus.  At the end of each session, I felt a surge of confidence to get out there in the world and be vulnerable, and to connect with people from a place of trust and love.  It’s helped me with dating, with my relationship with my family, and with asking for help pursuing other goals.  I needed help with money, so I got a financial planner.  I needed help being healthier, so I sought out new exercise instructors.  And I really needed help asking for what I need and deserve, so I got a life coach.  And I’m truly grateful that I did.  This past chapter of my single life was full of self-doubt and constant chaos. Now I have started a new one of trust, romance, and excitement for the future. And it’s a page-turner!  Sara

The video calls will be offered at two different times and you choose one.  

Tuesdays at 7:30 pm EST or 7 pm PST.   

If I get enough Europeans I will gladly offer a third time that will work with your schedule.  You can stay for 20 minutes just to talk out what is going on with you or stay the whole time to listen, learn & support other ladies in the OM.  Up to you.  

The call-in software has a raise your hand feature, so when you are ready to talk or ask a question, just raise your hand!

You can also check out the full calendar here.



Whenever works for both of you.  

In your pre-work, you will get to choose your own accountability coach.  Once you do, you will get a calendar link to schedule your sessions. You get six sessions included with the OM, but you are welcome to purchase more if you need more support for $150 an hour.

It has provided me with a great group of like minded women; who encourages and supports me as well as cheers me on throughout my journey. It’s quite amazing really!  – Indhira, NYC

I never expected in a million years that I would also be connected to the most incredible women I have ever met. Doing the OM and having this  community has been life changing, The love and support that I have received has changed me completely as a person. I am so thankful I have these women in my life and to have created lifelong connections and friendships with positive, like minded, supportive, loving, women. – Cassie

The women who were part of the OM  are truly some of the most beautiful, strong, intelligent, compassionate, and supportive women I have ever had the pleasure of meeting.  We were able to form a strong bond almost immediately and our friendships have only just begun.  What a cool experience it has been to connect with these women and to watch them grow, while experiencing my own personal growth at the same time! – Kathryn

Six-months.  You start your pre-work on January 1st and the live event ends June 28th with a graduation ceremony…because we do shit right!

You will, however, have access to your portal indefinitely to refer back to.


Here are the course modules

The science of being happy

I believe that happy relationships start with happy singles … and I’ve got the science to prove it.  This module will ignite your happiness by introducing you to new daily practices to start moving your happiness set point while your cultivate gratitude and mindfulness. We’ll dig in to understand how to make true changes so that all of the amazing things you learn actually stick. That’s the point!

The anatomy of modern relationships

If you’re feeling lost and confused in your love life, you’re not alone. The landscape of love has shifted and relationships in 2018 are dramatically different than they’ve ever been before … so why are we dating the same way we did in 1968? In this module, you’re going to learn what love really looks like and how to build it in healthy and working relationships.  Your mind will be nothing less than blown.

Uncovering your love and attachment styles

So many times we meet someone, think there’s potential and then something small but weird comes up that makes us think, “I guess this just isn’t a good match …” but that’s not necessarily true.

We all learn to love in different ways. Someone may be a great match for you, but they just don’t know how to love you. That means digging in to how you first learned love: Was it healthy? Is it helping you attract healthy people, or is it leading you down a road of unhappiness and disconnection?

Cultivating deep self knowledge

We’re all unique, sparkly unicorns because we each have different personalities, beliefs, and experiences. Because of that, we need different things in order to feel happy and safe. Knowing what you need to feel good and thrive in a relationship is an absolute must when you’re dating, yet so few of us really take the time to figure this stuff out.

Instead, we wait for the other person to make us feel happy and safe, and that, sugarpants, is a recipe for relationship disaster.

In this module, we’ll explore why values are so important, and you’ll learn how to recognize matching values in potential dates.

We’ll also uncover your strengths, so you know exactly what you have to offer a relationship, and what you need from another in order for the relationship to work.

We’ll also learn how to communicate all this without handing someone a questionnaire and a pie chart. Promise.

Rewriting your story

We all have a story, usually one that’s based on past experiences and things we’ve made up about ourselves along the way. In this module, we’re going to look into that story and investigate what beliefs and mindsets come along with it.

After we look at your story, what parts of your story can you ditch? What parts can you rewrite to create a story that moves you towards love, and away from fear?

Building self-worth and self-compassion

Self-worth is one of the most important aspects of dating. If we don’t have it, everyone we meet becomes a potential “fixer”— and expecting someone else to make you feel worthy will kill a relationship faster than Raid kills ants.

This week, you’ll learn what self-worth really is, and why it really is so important. We’ll look at how your self-worth, or lack thereof, is showing up in your dating and relationships, and we’ll also do a self-worth assessment which will reveal specific aspects you’ll need to work on. Finally, you’ll learn techniques to build your self-compassion, which in turn will boost your self-worth and equip you with the resilience to deal with rejection while dating like a boss. This shit will change your life.

Mastering your thoughts and beliefs

Your mind talks a lot of smack. It’s especially good at feeding you wackadoo thoughts and made-up stories that don’t help you AT ALL.

In this module, I’ll show you how to teach people how to treat you by exploring how you carry yourself, what you tolerate and how you react and respond to people and situations. Usually all of that is based on how we feel about ourselves deep on the inside, but trust me, your lack of confidence is being broadcast on the outside loud and clear.

Which is why I’ll show you how to understand the different types of thoughts and how to challenge what isn’t working for you anymore. You’ll learn about the beliefs and thinking traps that are keeping you unhappy and discover how to change the worry cycle that is affecting your dating and relationships.

Creating positive thinking and resilience

After we understand what’s going on in your head, you’re going to learn reframing techniques to get you through even the toughest days (and dates). As well as how to fully process rejection and move on from it.  I’ll also equip you with the tools you need to control your thoughts so they don’t control you.

Building boundaries and trust

Do you never want to say “no” to others because you’re afraid they’ll be upset or not like you?  Do you bend over backwards to please others?  Do you overshare (vomit out your life story) with people you just met because they are “just going to have to like you for who you are”?  (Yup, that’s a boundary issue too.)

In this module,we’re going to look at PEOPLE PLEASING (trust me, it is killing you), CO-DEPENDENCE and THOSE BIG FUCKING WALLS you like to put up and pretend are healthy (you like to call that being “picky”). YOU ARE GOING TO DISCOVER INTERDEPENDENCE and it will change everything. (Hint: That’s where everyone feels fucking amazing!)

Being vulnerable and available

Want to know what the number one most attractive quality is? Physical and emotional availability (ok, that’s two; so sue me).  

Every day, I have ladies that tell me that they are so available it’s crazy! They are on every app or site, going to meet-ups and talking to all of their friends to set them up. Availability is NOT a problem.

But …are you sure?

When people meet you they’ll instantly be looking to see how they fit into your life and what they can bring to your relationship … but is there actually room for them?  Or are you so busy being Miss Awesome Independent that people meet you and have ZERO idea how to fit into your life?

In this module, you’ll learn how to make sure you are coming off as physically and emotionally available, FIGURING OUT HOW PEOPLE FIT INTO YOUR LIFE, AND WHY VULNERABILITY IS the key to great love!  

If you’re dating but never connecting deeper, this is a MUST for you.

Real-world dating

Now that you know all of the things, how do you actually use them for dating? I got you, boo. In this module, you’ll discover first-date mindsets and learn the ONLY three questions you need to ask yourself after every date.

Next, I’ll show you how to spot emotional unavailability sooner rather than later and what to do when you do.

Finally, you’ll learn when and how to be vulnerable in new situations and when to set boundaries. I’m even going to give you a scripts for the DTR (Define the Relationship) talk and other awkward dating situations. Phew!

Building relationships

So what happens when you actually meet someone you like? You both are smitten and excited and ready to do this, right? Truth? This is where the real work comes in. Sharing your OM with them and helping them build their own. I’m going to teach you how to get through the power struggle phase that every couple goes through — and end up happy on the other side. You’ll also learn how to peacefully and happily resolve conflicts (‘cause that shit is inevitable).

When you sign-up you get access to your own private learning platform on the LOAS site. This platform has all of the info you need.  Your modules, call-in info, access to me and the accountability coaches.

You will need access to a computer with internet that has speakers.

Here are a few things to plan on. Expect to dedicate 2 – 3 hours for homework, calls and community time. 

We wanted to be flexible with the time so you would have plenty of time to finish the 12 modules.  You get access to the modules for life but only have access to Kira, your accountability coach, and the community for 5 months.  So it is in your best interest to get the work done in 5 months.

You get moved into the OM Meeting People and Dating Group which is group support for the next step when you are out there meeting and dating people!

You will just be moved to the OM Meeting people and Dating group early.  So you can get out there meet people and date!

Yes.  I have tried many other platforms and at this point, FB is the best option for groups. However, you are welcome to create a private account that is unsearchable just for this program.


The stunning adults-only, all-inclusive UNICO 20°87° resort in Riviera Maya, MX.  You can check it out here.  httpss://www.unicohotelrivieramaya.com/ It is the most magical place on earth.  Did you notice Unico is the first part of unicorn?  Coincidence?  I think not.

Yes!  You get the 5 day event for free with the Owner’s Manual.  However, you do have to pay for your resort accommodations and transportation (flight/shuttle) to the resort.  All of this will be set-up with my travel agent, Sara.

Cancun International Airport.  You will be surprised how affordable the prices are.

Prices vary on the time of year but the average for 5 days/4 nights is about $1100 for shared oceanfront room or $1700 for a single.  That includes everything (food, drinks, activities, etc). It is worth every fucking penny.

Absolutely.  When people sign-up we will ask if they are looking for roommates

I will be running these events every 2-3 months so you can always make the next one!

The event is an important part of this process and my goal is to get 100% participation for your sake, not mine.  These events are totally and completely life-changing.  However, the events are a totally optional part of the process.


Right now, sweet thing.  You can sign-up at anytime but will start the modules at the beginning of the next month.  Only 10 women are let in a month to keep this small and super duper special.  You will get plenty to do before that including pre-work, choosing your accountability coach and more. 

Yep. (Whatcha waitin’ for?) Set-up your call with me here!

The Internet pixies will fly into action, delivering your welcome email and all the info you need to get started. That is where you will access your pre-work, choose your accountability coach and sign-up for your welcome call with Kira.

Both. Your course modules are delivered online (via our slick af online learning system), but there are also conference calls, virtual meetups and a five-day real-life event  at the stunning Unico Resort in Mexico.

Weekly Q & A with Kira are Mondays at 8 pm ET and Wednesdays at 1:00 pm ET.  You can come to one or both.  You can stay for 20 minutes just to talk out what is going on with you or stay the whole time to listen, learn & support other ladies in the OM.  Up to you.  The call-in software has a raise your hand feature, so when you are ready to talk or ask a question, just raise your hand!

Whenever works for both of you.  When you sign-up, you will get a calendar link to schedule your sessions with your accountability coach.  You get six sessions included with the OM, but you are welcome to purchase more if you need more support for $150 an hour.

Well you and I both know that I can’t make you do anything. 🙂  However, this beautiful experience is not meant to be done alone. We need others to share, connect and learn with and from.  In this community, you will meet incredible women who will be there for you and will push you further and faster than you could ever go on your own.

Hell yes! Bring two. And use the coupon code FRIENDSAREAWESOME to get a $500 discount for each of you.

Of course. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Your payment is refundable only in the form of a program credit that is good for up to a year. If anything you have paid will remain in our system to be applied to be used for the program up to one year.  

Sure do, Hot Pants.  When you sign-up you will have the option of a 6 month payment plan or to pay the full amount upfront for a discount.

Each case will be looked at on a case-by-case basis.  If we agree to pause the program temporarily, you can come back and finish it within one year of your original registration date.  

No problem! Danny, my hubs and our client concierge will answer all of your email questions! Email Danny